When parents get to their 80s and 90s, some need help with everyday activities such as cooking, cleaning the house, and running errands. However, when they are sick, it becomes more involving. They may need someone to clean after them, feed, and make sure they are comfortable. If your parents are in this stage, even when they have lived a healthy life, they may start developing some issues like hearing loss, dementia, or challenged mobility. You may want to learn more about these conditions before taking any action. However, the fact remains, your parents need immediate help. What should you do?
Find Out the Type of Care Your Parents Need
If your parents are losing their eyesight, they may need someone to live with to ensure they stay safe and have ready assistance when moving around the house, such as to the bathroom, taking a walk, or even choosing what to wear. Understand that it’s not an easy time for your parents too, especially when they’ve been independent all their life. Discuss their health status with their doctor, talk to your parents, and then agree on the way forward. Together, you may decide to get someone to check on them every day or a live-in assistant. Alternatively, they may move in with you, get professional home care services, or move into a retirement home.
Frequent Home Checks
You may decide together with your family to be paying frequent visits to your parents, run their errands, clean the house, prepare meals, and make sure they are okay. You can have a routine where someone visits them every two days or every day, depending on how far you are. Your parents will be glad to be spending more time with you all, and it’s also reassuring when you know they have all they need, are taking their meds, and have someone who can run their errands. This arrangement works best when parents don’t have severe conditions, or one parent can take care of the other.
Move-in with Them
This option may be best if your parents need constant supervision and help. You need to discuss this option as a family and decide who will move in with them. Although moving in with them ensures they have a family member taking care of them, extra help may be needed if you work or have young children. It can be overwhelming taking care of your parents’ needs such as cleaning, cooking and feeding them, and going to work or attending to children. You may hire an assistant who takes care of your parents but ensure you are still within so that everything runs well.
They Move in with You
Your parents moving in with you may be an option if you have a room you can spare for them and a safe environment. Discuss this with your family, and agree and act on the necessary arrangements. You may have to move some of your family members to other rooms to create space for your parents. If you have a full-time job, you may have to cut back the working hours or get help from other family members if your parents need full-time supervision.
Get Professional Homecare Services
If your parents are battling conditions, are disabled, or too old, professional homecare may be ideal. A qualified nurse or assistant will be with them to not only monitor their health but to ensure they are comfortable, well taken care of, and make it to the doctor’s appointments. Even if you decide to move to your parents’ home or they move in with you, home care services ensure that a professional is taking care of them at all times.
Take them to a Retirement Home
Take your parents to a retirement home, although the last option offers you peace of mind because they will have 24hour care and medical professionals on standby to provide any assistance or intervene in case of an emergency. Your parents will be in a social setting where they can interact with other older people more freely. You can also visit and spend time with them whenever you want. A retirement home can be the best option when your parents can no longer take care of their daily needs, and you cannot live with them or have them move into your house. It may also end up being a cheaper option.
Sometimes you may have to make a quick decision when your parents’ safety or health is at risk. You may opt to stay with them as you figure out a more sustainable and permanent solution.