A survey by the National Association for Grandparenting in 2018 revealed that about 23% of adults had no memories of bonding with their grandparents. Having grandparents involved in the life of a child is proven valuable to their overall development and well-being. There is a special bond between grandparents and their grandchildren, as it is something different from that of siblings and parents. However, if you are a grandparent-to-be, there are expectations you need to ensure you are giving your family the best help possible. This step is critical, especially when the new families are often overwhelmed and unsure of how to handle a newborn during the beginning stages.
Catch Up on New Parenting Methods
You will face many challenges transitioning from being a parent to your adult-child to a grandparent. Parenting rules have changed over time, making babysitting a new child more challenging than it was decades ago. You can expect to have a rough time with the new parents when you offer parental advice regarding feeding, bathing, clothing, or putting a baby to sleep. Learning the current methods of parenting can help you establish a smooth relationship with the newborn and the parents. Consider seeking advice from friends who have already welcomed their first grandchild, educate yourself through books, or take classes specifically for grandparents. Alternatively, you can ask the new parents to provide guidelines about their style of parenting.
Consult Before Buying Baby Items
With a new baby, you might feel tempted to go shopping and pick what you think is appropriate for them. But before you do so, communicate your plans with the parents. Chances are, they have received dozens of baby clothes and toys or would prefer you buy specific items if you insist on shopping for the baby. It is understandable if you want to go overboard and shop for essentials like a playpen or carrier. Nonetheless, you still need to check with the mother before buying what you think is best for them. With a variety of choices available, any mother would want to weigh their options first to ensure they are choosing the right baby gear that fits their needs. It is best to give them time to shop around for baby carriers that offer comfort and support when carrying the child around.
Follow the Parents’ Lead
Naturally, you will feel responsible for sharing your experiences and opinions about everything related to raising a baby. However, to avoid any conflicts with the new parents, always offer advice that is non-judgmental and non-critical. Keep in mind everything about parenting has changed since you became a parent. Thus, respect the decisions new parents make from birth procedures to baby naming, proper feeding and even sleeping routines.
Allow Bonding to be Natural
Grandparents expect to build that special bond with their grandchildren right from the state. Unfortunately, bonding does not happen automatically. Newborns will cry when you hold them despite making funny faces and baby talk. Instead of setting self-expectations, focus on ways you build a strong bond with your grandchild. Give them time to adapt and feel comfortable near you. Once the bond grows, it will surprise you when they want to spend more time with you.
Becoming a new grandparent is an exciting time, but it also comes with new challenges. If you are looking forward to building a strong relationship with your grandchild, you will need to prepare for the changes along the way. Brush up on current parenting trends, offer support without overbearing, and enjoy your new life has a beloved nana. Remember, you have a vital role in your grandchild’s life, so strive to create a bond while they are still young.
As a parent, you want your kids to be a lot of things. You probably have all kinds of hopes for your little ones; the main two that you’re hoping for, however, is that they’re happy and healthy. If they have both of those going for them, then nothing else really matters. Also, if they both of those going for them, then all other aspects of their lives will be enhanced!
We’re going to focus a little on the latter in this post. The health of your child is obviously the paramount focus in your life. How their minds and bodies are functioning matters an awful lot. A way to make sure that they’re almost as healthy as can be is by making sure they stay active. Acting like a sloth inside on the couch all day won’t do much for their physical prowess, so they need to be out and about more – it’s up to you to encourage them!
In this day and age, we’re inundated with stuff that makes us want to stay indoors. It can be pretty difficult to make a child want to work out when laziness is the new fad! Here are a few ways you can get your kids to be more active, though:
Set An Example
If you take health and fitness seriously, then they’re probably going to take it seriously, too. Your kids are so very impressionable; they will take everything you do and try to mirror it – especially when they’re very young. Their mimicking and their views continue into older ages, and even into late teens for some. You, as a parent, have such a big influence over their behaviour.
Educate Them About Health And Fitness
Letting them know about why they should be more active might just do the trick. Kids don’t really like listening and learning about things that are pretty boring, but perhaps you could let them know what might happen if they’re too lazy for too long. We’re not saying that you should scare them, but telling them why it’s important would be a smart idea.
Take Them To Sporting Events
Not everyone is into the main sports in the world, so dragging them along to a professional football game might not work. Enjoying a day out at a particular sporting event might encourage them to be a little more active, though. They might start to really enjoy the sport that you’ve chosen to watch. They might view some of the players as role models to aspire to.
Buy Them Sporty Video Games
We’re in a world where video games dominate the entertainment industry; your kids are probably playing them, right? If they are, then perhaps you could buy them games that will make them want to go out and try it for real. Around fifteen years ago, skateboarding received a huge spike in popularity due to the video games that came out around the sport. You could look up how to play Steam on Mac or windows, or you could get a games console for them to enjoy. Just make sure they don’t play on it too much!
How stressed are you from 1 to 10? If you’re tempted to answer “11”, chances are you are not the only one. Most of us have to juggle huge amounts of stress on a daily basis. In fact, we are so used to stress that we can’t even imagine a world without it. It has become an integral part of our everyday lifestyle. As a result, high stress has been normalized. Everybody has developed a few coping mechanisms, from tuning in to your favorite relaxing app – headspace is an excellent space to start your meditative journey, for instance – to signing up to your local gym for a quick spin on the bike after a long day at the office.
However, while stress management strategies tend to ignore the primary issues. The human body is not designed to handle large amounts of unnecessary pressures. While your coping mechanisms can help you to make do in the short term, they don’t remove stress from your day-to-day life. When high pressure becomes an everyday practice, it’s time to consider making some changes to actively reduce stress – such as switching careers. Indeed, high-stress can trigger life-altering conditions for which there is no cure, such as:
Tinnitus causes hearing disruptions
Tinnitus happens when your brain thinks you are hearing sounds that are not here. Unlike an audio hallucination, tinnitus can present itself as a constant ringing, buzzing, or even clicking that can drown the real-life sounds around you. Chronic stress is one of the major triggers for tinnitus. Unfortunately, practicing meditation is unlikely to heal you. However, though there’s no cure for tinnitus, there’s treatment for it that can help you to regain your hearing functions. Prolonged tinnitus can, indeed, accentuate the risks of hearing impairment and isolation. In some cases, long-term stress release can have seen to improve the symptoms of tinnitus; however, it’s not a guaranteed solution.
Addison’s disease leads to drastic weight loss
For anyone who is trying to get in better shape and shed a few pounds, the prospect of a condition that makes you lose weight is appealing. However, don’t assume that it’s easy. Addison’s disease is caused by a low volume of cortisol hormone in your system. Your adrenal glands are unable to produce sufficient cortisol. Cortisol, known as the stress hormone, is produced as a response to an anxiety-inducing event. However, chronic stress puts a lot of pressure on your adrenal glands, which can lead to irreparable damage, resulting in Addison’s disease. Living with the disease is challenging as patients struggle to maintain a healthy weight, blood pressure, and muscle strength.
Alzheimer’s disease makes you forget those you love
Patients with Alzheimer’s are often unable to recognize their relatives. While the degenerative condition is progressive – in other words, you don’t lose your memories overnight – it is a terrifying prospect for patients who can feel themselves forgetting their past. According to studies, high levels of stress have been linked to dementia. Scientists believe that stress is not a consequence of Alzheimer’s disease, but one of its most important triggers.
In conclusion, stress is not only unpleasant, but it is also highly dangerous. Indeed, it can cause debilitating conditions that are likely to transform your life forever. Perhaps it is time to take back control and actively target stress areas in your life before they affect your health.
Age happens. A natural part of life that nobody can beat. As people age, things change. Certain actions aren’t as easy as they used to be. When this happens it can be immensely frustrating for the individual. It can also be distressing for the younger family too. There are ways you can help. Ways you can make an impact to help them live their lives as close as they used to before. Some are more time consuming than others but the trick is to manage your time with other family members so you can all take it in turns. Although their body might be slowing down, it doesn’t always mean their quality of life has to deteriorate. Here are a few tips that can get you started.
Get The Specialist Help They Need
It can be one thing to take it upon yourself to help out, but it’s supremely important to understand that in certain situations you may need specialist help. The individual may not want it either, perhaps because they’re scared or don’t like visiting medical professionals. In the same vain, you need to understand when they need care from a professional instead of a devoted family member. This doesn’t have to be full time residential care. You could consider a nursing home alternative if they didn’t want to go full time. Think of the smaller things that could make their life better. Getting a hearing aid, going to an eye doctor to ensure they can read and see properly. These things all need specialist help but it’s help that can make an enormous difference to their life.
Be Ready To Drive Them Around
Losing the freedom of the road must be a massive blow to anyone. After spending a life on the road, having that taken from you is pretty jarring. Help negate this a little by offering to take them out when they want. Again, manage this with other family members so you can all take it in turns. Sure, there may be buses and other public transport available but nothing beats going from A to B in the quickest of fashions. Taxis aren’t a long term solution, they cost too much to do daily.
Cook From Time To Time
It might not be possible for them to cook home cooked meals anymore, leaving them dependant on a microwave. A nice gesture could be to cook for them. You could turn this into a family event where everyone gets together, a potential source of joy for the elderly. It’s not something you could do all the time, understandably. But think about bringing them over to your home and them taking part in your own meal instead of you going to them. It’ll save you time.
Take Them Shopping
It’s a simple way to pass the time but if their mobility is impaired or hampered they might need someone to come with them. Even if it’s for groceries or the odd item of clothing, having someone with them can make all the difference. It also gets them out of the house for a while, a bit of fresh air and new scenery can make all the difference to someone who spends most of their time at home.
Being a grandparent is challenging in its own unique way. You want to be the best grandparent possible, and so, you need to find a way to look after yourself. Your grandchildren will want to run around and generally, wear you out physically and mentally. As such we have got to think about ways to keep ourselves in good shape in every capacity. So what can we do to provide a helping hand for our grandchildren, and ourselves?
Check your senses
A visit to an audiology clinic for hearing tests needs to be part of your yearly schedule. But if we want to be fighting there fit many different ways that we can look after yourself. It’s not just glasses, but it’s things like hearing aids, and generally making things a bit easier for us. As we get older, these little problems can tend to chip away at us and threaten to isolate us somewhat. This is especially true with something like hearing loss, so instead, think about finding yourself in that way. Your senses are a terrible thing to waste.
A healthy diet as a foundation
It’s a cliche but having a healthy diet is crucial that we need to find ways to enjoy our diet. It’s not just eating healthy all the time, especially when we have grandchildren that like candy on occasion. That means we have got to find a good way for us to reap the benefits of a healthy diet while also indulging in a sweet treat now and again! There is no point in eating rabbit food for the rest of our days because it will make us miserable, but we can find parts of our lives that require a little fine-tuning. Granted, the right diet is subjective, especially these days, but cutting back on alcohol and not overloading yourself in sugar is a simple method. And also, the benefits of the Mediterranean diet have been shown to work wonders for those in later years.
Looking after your mind
A mind is a terrible thing to waste, and you want to enjoy being a grandparent, and while you can take an omega-3 supplement, and consume the right quantity of vitamins, it’s about keeping your mind nimble. To an extent your grandchildren could do this for you! But, if you have concerns about your brain abilities declining, there are numerous brain tricks to help improve your memory. It’s about using the right tools, not just thinking that your brain is of a certain ability. In fact, because of neuroplasticity, and the research undertaken into this, we can make significant changes to our brain regardless of how old we are! It’s not about cognitive decline, but it’s about finding ways to exercise your brain. You can do brain training, but if you really want to keep that muscle going, learning a new language or an instrument are the best ways.
To be the best grandparent possible, you don’t have to be superman or superwoman, it’s about being the best version of you as possible. Your grandchildren love you, and it’s just about staying true to who you are but giving yourself a little helping hand to ensure that you are firing on all cylinders.
It’s that time of year again! Yup it’s almost Halloween, one of our family’s favorite holidays. (And you know we love all holidays!) To get into the Halloween spirit, pun intended, we like to usher in the holiday by reading Halloween Books with the grandkids.
We have grands ranging in age from 2 months to 16, so clearly we don’t read the same Halloween Books to all of them. Although in years past the oldest one sometimes sits in during the pre-schoolers story time if only to tease his brother about the baby books.
Anyway for this post I’m going to tell you about 6 Halloween Books our pre-schoolers love. In fact they like them so much we’ll be reading them many more times between now and Halloween, and perhaps even after.
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My 4 year old twin grandkids love Pete the Cat. They think he’s super cool!
Pete the Cat:Trick or Pete is the perfect Halloween book for them. It’s a lift the flap book that follows Pete as he goes trick or treating in his neighborhood. As he goes from house to house the flap opens to a fun spooky surprise.
It’s a fun book and will be loved now and the years to come!
My 5 year old grandson loves the Room on the Broom! It’s good a witch on a broom, 3 helpful animals, and a hungry dragon, what more can a child ask for?
Is there room on the broom for the 3 helpful critters, and can they save the witch from the hungry dragon? Read the book to find out!
The 4 & 5 year old boys love this book. Of course they’re currently in their cars and trucks phase and this book is perfect.
The popular Blue Truck is picking up his animal buddies to go to a costume party. Lift the flaps on this board book to find out who’s wearing each costume.
Will the Little Blue Truck wear a costume too? Lift the flap to find out!
My 4 year old granddaughter loves this classic Halloween Book, but mostly I think she loves the stickers. She loves stickers!
We’ve read this book with all the grands and will be reading it I’m sure next year to the now 2 month old grandson.
It’s a fun book that teaches kids right and wrong. The bear kids are excited to go trick or treating with their friends but when someone decides they should play tricks this go quickly awry!
Here’s another beloved character! Follow along as the cute bear plans his Halloween Party. There’ll be pumpkin carving, apple bobbing, and of course trick or treating. But wait! What will he wear? Help Corduroy decide on his costume!
What pre-schooler doesn’t love monster? Specially those that eat yucky gross food?
Come eat with Max, a monster with a monstrous appetite!